Rarely do any of us talk. We bottle things up. Push them away. Put on the front. Its the only way. Talking can make it worse. And anyway, talk to who? You imagine saying it all to partner, friend, parent... oh no. Where do you start? And what on earth will they think? How will it change anything? How will it change your relationship with that person? Will you wish you'd never mentioned it....?
And so, nothing gets done. All stays inside.
But wait a minute. You can come and see a counsellor - after all, isn't that all about 'talking'? But where will it get you? What will it lead to? Does it work? Will it help? What if it just opens up a can of worms? How can another person possibly understand?
So you go back to putting on the front. Yet you're exhausted and feel quite unwell at times. Sleep, eating, excercise - all gone to pot.
Somehow something propels people forward into picking up the phone, sending an email. They have usually reached that point - it feels like rock bottom. Its often the way. It just keeps being avoided. Until it can't anymore.
And yet, and yet, that first session can be the most blessed relief ever! All the pre-conceived ideas fly out the window.
There can be a real shift in the way you feel. Already. Not always, but often.
I've come to see that people gain on so many levels. Of course, feeling better, is the obvious one. But beyond the obvious, their health improves because their immune system functions better. They can make decisions more easily - often ending something that no longer serves them. Clarity is born! They feel deeply understood, perhaps for the first time - this alone allows stress to drop away. They feel lighter, hopeful and less defended. They realise what their behaviour is about. This brings closure. They realise what matters. They look at their loved ones in a different way. Their priorities shift. And it doesn't stop there... the changes in you radiate out. So everyone you come into contact with benefits. Essentially those closest. Remember, how it was for you in the past? You can repeat it so easily. Or not. Or you can realise and stop.
But it is not always easy, this process. It can bring up feelings that you've buried for decades. What is important to know is that whatever stays in your system, in terms of feelings, will always affect you. Or make you ill. It simply has to be worked through.
So, make the first appointment. Come and see. If its not for you, then its not for you. But thousands find it is for them. And they find that the first session brings such a release. That's a great start. Or even if you want to leave it at that, then something will have already shifted inside.
Get in touch. We have me, Marina Broadley and the independent associate counsellors. All very experienced and good people.